Building Your House

The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down. Proverbs 14:1

What does your house look like?

Is it just a house. Does it have four walls, a roof, and few items here and there? Has it always remained just a house or have you built it into a home? A place where anyone can walk in and know that life happens there.

Building a house is not just about structural integrity, but about the life, love, and lessons that come out of it. The four walls of a house eventually become the vessel in which a home is held. Proverbs 14:1 says "the wise woman builds her house." We build our homes by:

• Keeping our homes out of CHAOS (visit FlyLady to find the definition of C.H.A.O.S)


• Creating a sanctuary, a place of refuge


• Molding the hearts of our children


• Encouraging our husbands


• Opening our homes to friends, family, and everyone in between


• Making Christ the rock in which our home stands - a firm foundation

Our lists go on and on. Building a home is an unending process. It takes constant care and tending to. The opposite can be said of the rest of Proverbs 14:1 where it goes on to say, "the foolish one tears hers down." Doesn't it seem like tearing something down comes so much easier than building it up? It does for me.

Just today (and the past week for that matter) we've digressed in the potty training department at our house. Miss K has done a 180. Just when we thought we were over the final hurdle and on to diaper freedom she is back to having several accidents a day. My gut human instinct was to be upset and discipline her (read: tear her down) for the accident. After all, she knew it was bad, right?!? Then I stepped back and realized that I wasn't building her up and being of encouragement to her. Would it have been easier to get angry? Yes. However, she and I sat down and talked about her body queues, how big she's getting, and how proud her daddy and I are of her.

This is not to toot my own horn, because let me be the first to admit - I've taken the easy road of tearing down many a time. This is to say, however, that I've been there and if I can stop myself in the midst of tearing something down in my home - so can you!

What areas do you struggle in building a home? Encouraging your husband, teaching your children, the laundry, the dishes, the meal planning, the errands, the budgeting, etc? I encourage you to identify your thing and do a 180 with IT - make it your hearts desire to have that be an area of strength in your home and family, not an area where the structural integrity is compromised.