According to the book, The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, there are 5 ways that we receive and/or give "love". Giving and receiving love isn't as easy as just saying "I love you." Love is a choice. You must choose to express love in a way that will be joyfully received as love by your partner. If your spouse doesn't enjoy physical touch - when you hug him it may not say "I love you", it may say "your smothering me".
As mentioned before there are 5 languages and they are:
* Physical Touch
* Acts of Service
* Receiving Gifts
* Quality Time
* Words of Affirmation
It is important to know and realize that your love language and his may not be the same. So, it's worth your time for you to both find out what your love language is. Discuss it. Be specific. Work with each other on how to best "talk" to each other.
Today's challenge is to go to this website: http://www.afo.net/hftw-lovetest.asp
Both of you should take this test. It will help you both find your language and then begin to perfect your dialect. Work together on this.
I was just discussing this last week with Samantha. She hadn't ever heard of the book. I am hoping to find my copy and lend it to her.
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-Melissa